People Change and Promises are Broken

There are a lot of things that suck about growing up, but one of the really painful ones is outgrowing friendships.

Contrary to what my resting bitch face might insinuate, I consider myself to be a friendly person. I have always been that person that reaches out and tries to make conversation with new people, which is why it’s really hard for me to let go of friendships.
I like to believe that when you befriend someone to the point of confiding really personal things, it’s meant to last.  As sad and upsetting as it might be, at some point in your life due to different circumstances it will happen.

But just like I’m the type of person to befriend lots of people, I’m one of those people that doesn’t share deeply personal things easily, meaning that when I do it’s because I trust the person with my life and I expect them to be in my life for a long time.

Growing up I always believed that you were meant to have one best friend, so for the longest time whenever I had lots of things in common with my friends I would call them my “best friends”, and when we stopped seeing each other as often and stopped talking, it would really upset me. Now I know that it was a foolish thought to have.

For the past couple of years, I’ve let go of friendships that I never thought I would, some of them to the point where I don’t speak to the person at all, and others I occasionally text to catch up.

Sometimes you see it coming, and you expect the fact that at some point you are probably not going to be as good friends as you used to be; other times you don’t see it coming at all.

Here are some reasons why growing out of friendships suck:

  • Knowing that the only person that understands a certain situation is no longer on speaking terms with you.
  • Wanting to reach out and ask about how they’re doing but you can’t anymore.
  • You might still be friends in social media, but you can’t give them advice when you see them struggling.
  • Looking back at the good times you shared with a heavy heart.
  • Depending on the situation wanting to reach out but not wanting to be the person that does it first.

Funny thing is, that I might be mad at the person or at the situation, but I’m the type of person that if someone reached out to me, I’m there to listen. Keep the friendships that are worth it close, and let go to the ones that do more harm than good. Letting go of friendships might not be the best thing, but sometimes it’s necessary.

All the love,

          - Michelle 

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